September 2023

Dear Friends of First,

What do we do when conflict arises? What is the typical response to conflict? You know the answer. Healthy conflict can be good for a congregation. Healthy conflict can help a congregation to define its mission and purpose. On the other hand, unhealthy conflict can tear a congregation apart. Unhealthy conflict can be deceiving, sad, and misleading. My work here as pastor has been about building unity, bringing people together, being a peacemaker, an advocate for the good of the whole. This work has not come without great challenge and disappointment. As Proverbs 18:17b says, “The first to speak seems right, until someone comes forward and cross-examines.” In this verse, Solomon says that wise people make sure that they know both sides of an issue before drawing a conclusion. Because this practice, though, is in short supply in our culture, I want to offer three ways that we can follow Solomon’s wise words and pursue an understanding of both sides of the story. 1. Assume there is more to the story. 2. Listen to the other side carefully. 3. Ask questions. There is always more to the story.

Many times, like this, I reflect on the words of James 4:1; “What is the source of wars and fights among you? Don’t they come from the cravings that are at war within you?” and Psalm 34:14; “Turn away from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it.”

When conflict arises, I seek God first. This enables me to get my heart in the right place, so that I may be more effective for others. I ask the Lord to give me wisdom, patience and understanding. I pray for the congregation, and the people. I pray for what is on the heart and mind. I then follow the steps in Matthew 18, that I can have a clear, biblical approach as to deal with the issue and achieve the reconciliation God desires for all of us. I believe and trust that God’s salvation is stronger than sin, God’s forgiveness is stronger than bitterness, God’s reconciliation is stronger than hatred, God’s Resurrection in Christ is stronger than crucifixion, and that Christ’s Light is stronger than darkness.

How we resolve conflict, with ourselves and with others, will testify to the reconciling work of God in Christ by his Spirit in our lives.

Thank you for the opportunity to serve,
Pastor Jim